Traditionally childbirth has been described as consisting of three “mechanisms”:
• Powers – The forceful strength of co-ordinated contractions
• Passage – The birth canal anatomy, including the size and shape of the woman’s bony pelvis, and resistance of her soft tissue
• Passenger – The baby, particularly its lie and position of its head
These three “P”s are then superimposed as such, over a plotted half-century-old labour standards called the Friedman curve, to ensure “Failure to Progress” does not dictate the need for caesarean-section.
Refreshingly more recently, textbooks are finally beginning to mention the fourth “P”, termed Psyche. That is, the woman’s expectations of the birthing process, and how her anxiety can lengthen labour. It is the rather belated acknowledgement that empowered knowledgeable confidence in her own body’s ability; the positive support of caring birth assistants; a calm holistic labour room environment; and receptive approachable midwifery-obstetric healthcare staff, are collectively and fundamentally extremely influential on reducing a woman’s overwhelming fears which can negatively interfere in labour progress.
However, there is a fifth “P” which needs mention. And that is, Preparation. Yes, without doubt it is possible to prepare positively in every way feasible, and still result in a highly interventionalised labour with surgical delivery. Yes, you could “do everything right”, and it still “go all wrong” … the difference is, with preparation, it’s simply more likely, it will “go all right”.
So if you wish to improve your chances of natural birth, then – without project managing your own pregnancy to the point of stressful obsession – it’s about embracing the holistic mindset from the get-go. However, if you’re only 10 weeks pregnant and already adamant an Epidural is the only option you’ll consider, then we’d say either do so and do it guilt-free (this is your labour, and you must do what is right for you); or fully investigate the multiple other options to ensure your decisions are genuinely informed.
It’s about getting pro-active. It’s about lining up all your ducks-in-a-row to give the best chance possible of experiencing a non-interventionalised normal natural birth – knowing this too, is also actually best for your baby. It’s about knowing you did everything in your power, so later no mother-guilt need ever persist, regardless of the delivery outcome. Or, it’s about standing your ground that your perception of such preparation is bohemian mother-earth hippy claptrap, and not for you, and you’re okay with that, full-stop.
The thing you need to avoid – like the plague – is an unintended lack of preparation, resulting in enabling an aching, decaying cavity of regret to ever be able to form. It’s about protecting your spirit.